A Pregnant Woman’s Dream: MN State Fair

It’s Christmas in August!  It’s better than a birthday!  It’s the Minnesota State Fair!  San and I make it a point to always try to go a full day to the state fair, and to eat as much of the new food as we can!  It’s probably our favorite day of the year!  We love our state, despite it’s nasty winters, and we just love all of the Minnesota pride at the fair!

We went with my parents this year, and in order to avoid walking more than we need to, missing out on foods we wanted to try or attractions we wanted to see, I got a little crazy and made a color coded chart to help us not miss a thing.  I printed out the state fair map in black and white and used different colored numbers to mark all the attractions we wanted to see, the food we had to try, and the food we were open to but that weren’t necessary (in case they sounded good at the time that day).  I even went so far as to laminate them because there was a chance of rain.


Despite the jokes made about my OCD tendencies, this came in so handy!  We were able to plan a route that didn’t require any back-tracking, we ate all the food we wanted, and we got to see a ton of cool stuff while we were still energetic and not yet drained from the heat, food, and walking.

I got roped into doing the Giant Sing-Along after I commented that I could do such a better job than all those currently singing to “Walking on Sunshine.”  Little did I know, the highlighted words were hard to follow and I was not nearly as familiar with the second verse as I was with the first.  Oh well, it was fun!





The pizza tots from Green Mill were really good!  I didn’t realize that we’ve actually had these before at Green Mill, so I was a little let down that they weren’t specially created for the fair, but they were good nonetheless.


My mom was craving a brownie, so we indulged in this turtle brownie.  It’s so nice to have four people to split everything with!


O’Gara’s was on our must-have list with their pretzel cheese curds.  They were probably the best cheese curds I’ve ever had.  The outer shell was made from pretzels, so it was very crunchy, and the inside had delicious beer cheese.  I could eat those daily!


My dad is really into our Scottish heritage (he may own bagpipes and a Scottish hat…oh and he has a “utili-kilt” which is a tool belt and kilt in one), so we stopped to listen to the bagpiper for a while.  Redheads, unite!


The PB&J French Toast at the Robbinsdale Dining Hall was delicious!  Seriously, the french toast were good enough, but the peanut butter and jelly was just a fun addition.


San had to try the beer gelato.  I thought it was disgusting (I’m not a beer drinker even when I’m not pregnant), but San really liked it.


We definitely had to stop at the newly revamped West End Market.  It was gorgeous!  I loved the Blue Barn.  My mom and I agreed that one of us needs a blue barn.  It is so fun and gorgeous!



We tried the Blue Cheese Corn Fritz there and they were actually delicious!  I’m not a big fan of bleu cheese, but it wasn’t that noticeable.  All the flavors were very interesting and the texture was amazing.  This was definitely my favorite really unique food there.


I had to get a yearly photo of San drinking beer – his favorite part of the fair!


We got to see a historic house that was home to the first MN state senator!  It was just so cool to learn how far our state has come!


San wanted to try some deep fried lobster on a stick.  It wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t anything amazing either.



I always have to order the Hotdish-on-a-Stick from Ole & Lena’s if we see it.  It’s nothing amazing, but it’s a tradition and very Minnesotan, which is what the fair is all about!



We walked through the various animal barns.  I was giddy when I saw the piglets sleeping on top of each other and I actually got to pet a newborn piglet!  I was in heaven!  I love pigs!  It was so soft and just precious!


We also saw the largest pig in Minnesota.  I believe it was 800 pounds!  We learned that piglets grow a pound and a half every day!  I’m so glad human babies don’t grow that fast!


We had a hankering for onion rings, so we got a Blooming Onion.  It was pretty good.  It was a lot even for four people to split.  The batter was very, very hard, and didn’t have much flavor, but it was still good overall.


We had to stop at the Dairy Barn.  They have the best ice cream ever!  San and I shared a raspberry malt (!) and my mom and dad shared a twist cone.


In the Ag/Horitculture building, San and my dad shared some beer samples.


San had to try the s’mores beer.  He said it was really good!  It looked good to me…if it wasn’t beer!


I decided to try the walleye mac and cheese when I saw that it had red pepper, corn, and gouda cheese.  It was very delicious!  I could have eaten a huge plate full of that.


Toward the end of the day when we were getting tired, San didn’t want the food to end, so he bought another round of just regular cheese curds.  They never disappoint!


To end the day, San ordered some crab fritters.  He loved them!  I thought they were almost delicious, but they had too much of some spice that was overpowering.  Very good, otherwise!


Oh man, what a day!  We also walked through many exhibits, bought a bunch of stuff (like some handmade wooden toys for the baby), visited the Pet Center (you know we love spoiling our pups), watched part of a stunt dog show, and just had fun walking around!  I already can’t wait for next year!

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Commemorating Quite a Year

Last Wednesday, August 13th, was our third anniversary!  If we weren’t sure by then, we are sure of it now that we are officially beyond the newlywed phase, and that is quite alright by me!

We usually do something fun and out-of-the-norm for our anniversaries, but we don’t usually go crazy because as much as an anniversary is a great reminder of how far we come and of our wedding day, we try to make every day a priority to let each other know how much we care.  With our schedules being so off, we only see each other a few hours a week right now, which is definitely not ideal, but I knew going into our wedding day that chef’s schedules vary dramatically day-to-day and season-to-season.  Thankfully, San had last Thursday off and I was able to get out a little early so we could celebrate properly.

I even had time to curl my hair which was so nice considering I spend all day with kids and don’t feel especially pretty after my ten-hour days.


We went to one of our favorite little restaurants called the Blue Door Pub in St. Paul.  I went to St. Thomas in St. Paul, so we spent a few years going to local restaurants that we fell in love with.  It’s always fun to go back and visit them!


San’s celebratory drink of choice is always beer and mine is almost always root beer, even when I’m not pregnant!



We started off with “Latin Kisses” or cream cheese-stuffed jalapenos wrapped in bacon.  They were heavenly!  We are huge jalapeno and bacon lovers!






I ordered a Breakfast Blucy, which if you didn’t know, the Twin Cities is well-known for its cheese-stuffed burgers which are called Juicy Lucys.  The Blue Door Pub calls theirs Blucys.  My burger came with bacon and an egg on top and was stuffed to the brim with cheese inside.  So delicious!  And I love their tots!


San ordered their special which had ham and pulled pork with a mustard aioli on top and onion rings.  So delicious!  San can sure eat and finished his and ate some of mine as well!



To keep the celebration going, last night (the following Tuesday), we had another night together, so San made us bacon and cheese stuffed chicken breast, homemade mac and cheese, and dinner rolls.  It was heavenly and there is even some mac and cheese leftover for me to devour throughout the week!





I’m one lucky woman to be married to such a wonderful man!  We are just so overjoyed by everything that is happening in our marriage right now an had fun celebrating this extremely special time.

How do you celebrate anniversaries?

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The Silent Suffering of Infertility

Warning: This post is going to be long and it will have personal fertility-related information. Read on at your own risk. We hope you do with an open mind!

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It is National Infertility Awareness Week, so this post is a timely one. San and I have gone back and forth for months on whether to write a post about this topic. If you have been wondering why we were posting so much at the beginning the year and then dropped off the face of the earth, this post will answer that for you.

Before we jump into it, I want to share our motivations for writing about this with “the world.” We want to make it very clear that we are not sharing this so we can have a pity party. We made sure to wait until we were emotionally stable and no longer at rock bottom emotionally before sharing this. We know people have far better things to do then sit around and feel sorry for us. In fact, I have written three different versions of this post and have scrapped them all because emotionally I was not ready to share and the posts were coming off extremely “Woe is me. My life is horrible. There is no hope.” I’m no longer at that place emotionally and can now share this for the real reasons we have in mind.

Reason 1: To Give Support to Those Suffering in Silence

First, we want to share this to give support to all the other people out there suffering from infertility. This topic remains mute territory for so many people because there are stigmas and judgments attached to it. People often give unwanted and uneducated advice such as “stand on your head after” or “just check your temperature daily and then you will know when you are ovulating.” Obviously, this advice is given with love, but when people find out they are infertile, they have already tried everything and more, gone through testing, and are looking for support rather than advice for the average person who usually can conceive within a few months. We want to help those suffering in silence know they are not alone. Some people don’t want to share and that is just fine, but we are willing to share and want to give hope and support to those who choose not to.

Reason 2: So We Don’t Have to Hide It Anymore

Second, we are very tired of feeling isolated, ashamed, and afraid. When people ask us about when we are going to have kids, it is so hard to answer. We don’t want to lie, but we also don’t want to turn a sweet conversation sour by dumping our news on them. We feel by being open about it, most people will know (we have already shared with those in our life closest to us) and we can be open about it in most situations rather than feeling like it is something we caused that we have to hide. Just as people share the big news that they can have kids, it is a huge part of our life we are hiding if we don’t share that we aren’t able to have kids. As someone who cares for others, I hate knowing someone is suffering in silence after the fact. Obviously, it is a person’s right to keep things private, but often people are silent and look back wishing they had told people so they could have had help, support, or just a listening ear from time to time. We aren’t looking for people to rally around us, but if I knew someone going through this, I would want to be there to support them (even if I wasn’t close with them) in some way, so we are being open and giving that opportunity to anyone if they would like by not keeping them in the dark. We are always open to and appreciative of prayers!

Reason 3: To Raise Awareness Among Those Who Haven’t Been Affected by It

Third, we want to raise awareness for this topic. We have a lot of opinions about insurance, people’s perceptions of infertility, help for those suffering, support for those suffering, and even the medical world related to infertility. Because 7/8 couples never deal with infertility, the majority of people are not slapped in the face with this reality that 1/8 of couples are reminded of every day. Just as people raise awareness for breast cancer and work to support it even if they have never had it and sometimes don’t know anyone who has, we think infertility is a social issue that many don’t know very much about and therefore have no clue about supporting it or why it is an important cause to support. We feel that if we are going to go through something this heart-wrenching and life-altering (which are not exaggerations in the slightest), we want to be able to make an impact for the future. It all starts with this post and we are excited to see where it goes from there.

Reason 4: To Advocate for Strong Marriages in the Midst of Suffering

Fourth, we are huge advocates for marriage. It’s what I built my photography business around. It’s what I get worked up about. It’s what I would write a book about if I had enough experience at it. We knew very well going into our marriage that we would face at least one horrible thing in our marriage. It seems inevitable. Often, the hits just keep on coming in a normal marriage. We knew that if we deny the facts that marriage is hard and the divorce rates are high for a reason, we would end up part of the statistics. So, by sharing this, we want to show that marriages can endure hard times. A couple can have their lifelong dreams crushed and still stick together as a team. Infertility doesn’t have to break a couple up or make their marriage weak. If we can’t inspire people about infertility, we want to at least inspire them about marriage and love.

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Our Story

So, as you can see, San and I learned this year that we are “infertile.” I put that in quotes because that is a very loose and undefineable term (from my perspective). The medical field defines “infertile” as anyone under 35 who has tried to conceive for one year with no success (and that just means not using protection; it doesn’t mean timing it correctly) or anyone 35 or over who has tried for six months with no success (because they have less time before the eggs become unusable so they should go in sooner). However, so many “infertile” people go on to have kids and so much of infertility is unexplained, so the term just doesn’t seem as all-encompassing as one may assume.

At this point, San and I have tried to have a baby for close to a year and a half. I could probably write a novel at this point about the whole process (not of the trying itself, of course, but of the emotions and what was going on at the time), how much we want a family, the emotions, etc., but not all of that is important and they can be shared at another time.

What we will share is that we have been together for eight and a half years, and married for almost three of those years. We started dating when we were sixteen, and although it is hard for even us to imagine sometimes, we pretty much knew we would be together forever and we started dreaming about our family right away. I’ve always been a future-oriented person, so dreaming is nothing knew for me, but this dream took on a life of its own as we got closer and closer to marriage. I have never seen a man so excited to have kids. In fact, I was the one telling San we needed to wait, as he was ready to start trying on our wedding day! I let graduate school, teaching, and my photography business (as well as people’s opinions) get in the way and we kept pushing the date back until San finally convinced me that a baby will be worth moving our schedules around for. We desired a child so much. In fact, for me, my identity my entire life has been placed in motherhood. Although I’m not a mother right now, it’s always been the role I thought would define me in ways I am undefined right now. I still believe what I have since birth: that motherhood is my calling, my purpose, and my passion. Imagine having that ripped away. It’s not an easy thing to deal with.

I can still remember when we decided to start trying. It was such a beautiful time in our marriage. We felt like a team more than we ever had and we went crazy thinking about names, gender reveal photo sessions, nurseries, personality traits, what our little “Asian redhead” (as those at our wedding called our future child when they gushed about what he or she would look like) would look like, and pregnancy. Month after month, we pictured that positive pregnancy test and every month we cried at the one pink line that told us that dream would have to be postponed. Eventually, hope dwindled and the routine became less exciting and more hard work. Slowly, that voice in my head that said, “Infertility won’t be part of our story. We are healthy,” changed to, “Maybe something’s wrong….”

After ten months of trying, we went to the doctor who put me on birth control for a month in hopes that it would “regulate” my “irregular” cycle. Come to find out it wasn’t irregular at all, but we followed the doctor’s orders and our hope was reset as we tried for three more months. We were certain last December that we were pregnant. I was set to ovulate on Christmas, which seemed like a sign that it was meant to be. If God could make Mary pregnant, surely we could get pregnant! I did everything I could to not let the stress of the season get to me because I fully believed an egg was implanting inside of me. A few days before I could test, I started downloading pregnancy apps, following pregnancy blogs, and reading everything I could. A friend of mine said she “just knew” that she was pregnant, so I was sure I was because I believed I “just knew” too.

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 Photo on left: the art we bought for the nursery when we first started trying.  Photo on right: the pregnancy test and note I almost left for San in January when I was “sure” I was pregnant.  I didn’t want to wake him up bawling, but I felt so alone, so I ended up waking him up instead of letting him wake up to that note.

I cannot describe to you the devastation we felt when I woke up to yet another negative. It was our rock bottom before the rock bottoms that were still yet to come. Being proactive people, we immediately scheduled an appointment at a different clinic that we heard through the grapevine was really good at helping people diagnose infertility.

And then, we spent the next three months playing a gut-wrenching, tear-filled waiting game as we underwent testing. As much as we hoped for normal tests, at the same time, we wanted there to be something the doctors could fix. All of my uncomfortable (and sometimes painful) tests came back normal. San’s, however, did not. At this time, we don’t want to share with the world exactly what the results showed, but we learned from his testing right away that our chances of conceiving naturally were pretty much zero. The only reason we are even sharing that we are dealing with most likely male-factor infertility is because we want to raise awareness that infertility is not just a woman’s issue, that men need support as well, and that the stigma should be banished because infertility is in most cases not someone’s fault. The sad part is that the doctors sugar coated what our chances are at first, so we had to learn that through research online before the doctor confirmed our suspicions two months later. We waited two months to get in to see a urologist, two months that were filled with a mixture of hope that something would be fixable and dread that there was nothing the urologist could do, which was the stronger of the two emotions after days and days of research on the topic.

About twenty minutes with the urologist and our fears were confirmed: he’s healthy. That’s such a strange thing to say because throughout the whole process, I was worried that he was not healthy and that something was seriously wrong, but we both clung to hope that there was something very minor the doctor could do to fix it. Knowing that everything was “normal” meant there is nothing the doctors can do for us.

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So, now we are on the other end of testing. I’m sure we’ll post about the emotions that I skimmed over in this post. This has seriously been the most dramatic and painful experience our marriage has faced (not to mention how bad it has been on an individual level), and it could possibly be the hardest thing it will face. We aren’t sure. However, we have vowed to put our marriage first through anything life throws at it, so this is no different. I’ve personally hit rock bottom many days throughout the last few months. I’ve lost hope and I’ve gained it back. Over and over again. What we have clung to is faith, knowing that no matter what we will have children some way or another, and considering that perhaps this story is meant to be shared to help others.

We are now at the point of moving forward. I think we will save our plan for a different post. We think it could really help people move forward, learn about the process (what options are available, cost, etc.), and give couples suffering with infertility hope if out plan of attack ends up working, so we hope to share it eventually.

This is why we haven’t posted in a few months. We have done a lot to our house and other various projects in that time and have wanted to share, but we were giving ourselves some time to grieve the loss of this dream. Whether we end up getting pregnant naturally or not, the dream is still dead in a lot of ways. Our eyes have been opened to a whole new kind of pain, and while that is good because we are no longer ignorant, it also takes away the allure of the dream to start a family and makes that dream very bittersweet. Getting over that has not been easy, but we are currently at a really good place emotionally, considering what we have learned and gone through.

This is only the beginning of our journey. We are just like so many married couples out there. We want to start a family. We hope we have shown that although it usually happens easily for couples, that is not always the case. Please be cautious when you ask people about their plans for a family. Please be gentle when listening to them share their story if they open up to you about infertility. Even if a couple has no medical history of ANYTHING (like us), fertility isn’t something everyone is blessed with. More than ever, we view children as the most miraculous gift and we believe that pregnancy is a gift not everyone will experience, no matter how much they desire it. And please, think long and hard about giving an infertile couple advice. I really hope we can continue to share this journey and we hope our sharing is viewed in the way we meant for it to be. We apologize to anyone who finds out through this or future posts and feels like they should have been told in person. It has been very hard for us to share this and part of us still feels like perhaps we should keep it between just the two of us, but by posting this, we hope our intentions will be visible as well as why we were apprehensive and chose this route for getting the word out as opposed to telling everyone we know personally.

Here are some links if you are interested:

We Think It’s Time We Start Dating Again . . .

San and I spent a lot of time thinking about our relationship and how our marriage has gone for the past two and a half years.  We decided it is time we start dating again . . .

Wait a second.  Isn’t this blog called MARITAL Glue?  You might be thinking we had better change the name if we are going to be dating.  However, I never did say we are going to be dating other people.  Nope, we are still head-over-heels for each other and have been for eight years!  What has changed since we got married is the focus on time for just us.  You know, doing spontaneous things, reveling in our time together, not being glued to our phones or our pup (thought we do love her so).  That was what our relationship was like before we got married.  Now that we see each other a lot, we have gotten away from really spending quality time together.  Even when we go out to eat, we are typically focused more on the food than each other.  That’s gotta stop!


I definitely did not come up with this idea on my own, but the way we implemented it is different than what I have seen on the web.  I originally got the idea from Shannon Brown’s blog Find Joy in the Journey when I perusing Pinterest a few months ago.  I was instantly inspired!  But, as I got to thinking about planning twelve dates, I became overwhelmed.  I wanted to do this for San for Christmas, but we have never in the history of our relationship given each other Christmas gifts.  Why?  Because our dating anniversary falls on New Year’s Eve and San’s birthday is in December, so when we were in high school and college, it was just too much money to be spending for three important dates.  We decided Christmas is sweet enough just having each other nearby, so eight years in, we have never officially given each other a Christmas gift.  I felt like I might feel a little let down putting SO much work into a gift for San with nothing from him.  That might be selfish, but I wanted to make sure the gift wasn’t a curse in disguise.  So, I talked to San about the idea and we decided to each plan six dates on our own!


I actually think this idea is so much better than one of us planning all the dates.  Two heads are better than one, right?  That way we both have a say in what we are doing (so San isn’t going on dates that only I want to do and vice versa) and we were able to get really creative since we only had six dates to plan.  So often, we talk about things we want to do together, but we rarely implement these ideas, so planning these dates was an opportunity to finally do some fun stuff we had been dreaming of!

San planned the following months: January, March, May, July, September, and November

I planned these: February, April, June, August, October, and December

I decided to make it easier on San by giving myself the more anticipated dates (my birthday in June, our anniversary in August, and Christmas/San’s birthday in December).  He was relieved!

We seriously had a blast making these!  I created a template in Photoshop that we were both able to just open up and fill in.  San’s definitely not very familiar with Photoshop, but when I showed him the template and handed him my computer, he had no problem filling it out and printing it.

Here is what the template looks like:


I thought it would be nice to share the template with you if you are interested!  It is a Photoshop file (.psd), so you can only edit it if you have Photoshop or Photoshop Elements.  I wish I knew a different way to edit them for anyone without Photoshop, but I don’t!  You can download the Year of Dates template here.  The fonts I used are: Hand Shop Typography, Sail, and Champagne and Limousines.  Feel free to use this template however you want!  I just ask that you don’t distribute them (instead, send someone a link to this post if they want a copy).

On January 1st, we opened the one San created for January!




A lot of them have little clipart images along the bottom if we ran out of things to say about the date.  I was so excited for this date!  I am obsessed with the movie Funny Girl.  I watched it for the first time in college and was so inspired by Fanny Brice’s rise to stardom as someone who had the odds against her.  I also loved the powerful message in “Don’t Rain on My Parade.”  I tend to be a tad subservient at times, so I pump myself up by listening to that song.

About three years ago, Minnesota was hit with a HUGE blizzard.  I was trapped at San’s apartment and we had to get creative with entertainment that he had in his apartment.  He had Netflix, so I suggested we watch Funny Girl.  I told him he would LOVE it because it is the best movie ever!  The blizzard made the streaming less than ideal, so it took forever to load the movie.  In the first five minutes, Barbra Streisand utters the famous line, “Hello Gorgeous.”  When that part came up, I turned to San who hadn’t been paying attention, and said, “This line is so famous!”  He didn’t know what line I was talking about, so I made him rewind it.  It took a good fifteen minutes to rewind it because of the super slow internet from the storm, and when we finally got it cued up and he saw what line I was talking about, he said, “All of that for THAT line???  That’s so dumb!”  To say that he had a bad perception of the movie from the beginning would be putting it mildly.  He could barely sit through it!

So, opening the January envelope and seeing that we could watch Funny Girl with no snide comments or complaints AND that I got to choose the meal was music to my ears!  The “don’t say whatever” he added to the line about dinner being my choice is because I’m severely indecisive when it comes to choosing food because I love so many foods!

I have to admit that choosing the meal was hard, seeing as I started a 30-day “detox” in early January that had me completely eliminate gluten and dairy.  What meal would I have chosen if I could choose anything? Probably a cheesy, creamy, amazing pasta dish and some buttery bread.  On the detox, that was not an option!  So, since San was given six steaks as a reward for hitting a goal at his work (the luxuries of being a chef), I told him to go crazy with something gluten and dairy-free that uses steak.

We planned the date for a Friday night when he had the day off, and I honestly was just expecting to clear off the dining room table (that we also use as our office of sorts), eat, pop in the movie, and probably fall asleep (which I have a tendency to do whenever I make contact with some comfy cushions).  I was so wrong!  I walked in and the house was completely tidied and the song “My Girl” was playing!  He had set the table, lit some candles, and dinner was ready the second I walked through the door.  I seriously could not wipe the smile off of my face!

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He made steak with carmelized onions and bacon as a topping, roasted potatoes, and glazed carrots.  Oh my goodness, people, it was amazing!!!  After starving myself of anything I consider delicious for almost thirty days, the steak reawakened my taste buds!  It was that good!  I’m a lucky woman!

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And how could I forget the root beer, which was the only pop I had all month!  It was the perfect date to start the year off with a bang!

After dinner, we opened the February date, and this is what we are up for (can you tell who is the rambling spouse by how much I wrote on the description of my date?):



I had a tendency to list a couple things we could do related to the theme so that way it created more than one date (with one easy thing and one thing that takes more planning). We will fill you in on this date in late February/early March.  I can’t wait!

I would love to know if this inspired you, if you have done a thoughtful gift like this before, and what dates you would go on if you were able to create one!

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Dominating the Dual Decorating Style

I’ve always been a decorating nut.  When I was in elementary school, I dreamed of buying an A-frame house that I would decorate with boat-shaped bookcases and giant wooden bear statues.  Thankfully, over the years, my style changed, but my obsession with the art of decorating has only grown stronger.

I learned early on in our relationship back in high school that San likes joint decisions when it comes to anything pertaining to our relationship.  Truthfully, we knew we would get married even back in high school (which seems kind of crazy now), so we often talked about what our kids’ names would be, what dog we would get, and what our house would look like.  Before Pinterest, I hoarded images of beautifully-decorated rooms in a Photobucket account.  When I would see San, I would show him the newest photos I had saved and he would often utter a polite “yuck” or “ew” to every one.

I grew up in a home where my mom made the decorating decisions, my dad tried to talk her out of them because it meant work for him or change, but eventually he would come around and love whatever she did.  My dad is not a guy who cares about aesthetics, so my mom got to choose the decorating style she wanted and he never complained once it was done.  I was quickly learning that San would not be like this and that I would have to cater to his likes as well.

The longer we dated, the more our decorating styles started to mesh together.  Then, once we were married, we decided we both had to agree on every decorating decision we made.  We quickly learned what we both liked and what we didn’t and eventually we found a “style” that would work as our dual decorating style even though our individual styles are pretty different.

A few years ago, I gravitated toward pretty feminine rooms like this:



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It’s pretty funny looking back at these because I wouldn’t consider them my style at all now, but I showed San rooms like this all the time while we were dating.  Poor guy!

San used to, in return, show me photos of rooms he liked, such as these:

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I think as we make decisions together, our style has grown closer and closer together, which is remarkable considering how far apart they were to begin with.  As you will see as we get further along in the renovating and decorating process, we gravitate toward rooms that look like these:

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Our Dual Decorating Style

Vascusi Elson Interior Design

Our Dual Decorating Style

Flea Market Trixie

Our Dual Decorating Style

Better Homes and Gardens

Our Dual Decorating Style

The Lettered Cottage

Our Dual Decorating Style

Vascusi Elson Interior Design

Our Dual Decorating Style


Honey We’re Home

After looking at lots of photos, pinning away on Pinterest, and shopping together a lot over the past few years, we have learned that there are certain things that we really love when it comes to decorating that define our style.

Our style includes:

We like to say our style is like a bright, modern, cottage because we love lots of vintage elements, but we also like the room to feel updated and timeless.  We hope that made sense!  Our aim is for our home to be youthful, casual, inviting, and a little quirky (like us).  We have learned to decorate using things we both absolutely love and when it all comes together, it works because we are drawn toward alike things.  We can’t wait to get to decorating and will be sure to show you lots of inspiration that guides us along the way!